A wise woman once told me, “If you are struggling with something, just pick up a book regarding the issue and you will soon find the answer.” That is a piece of advice that I have carried with me for quite some time now, and I continue to use. In an effort to keep my positive momentum flowing, this weekend I did just that. I picked up the Law of Attraction by Michael J. Losier from the library. If you are not already familiar with the book, it is about “The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t.” Other books that I have read to help motivate and boost my spirits are The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. These books are great motivators so add them to your reading list.
All three books are based off of the same concept; changing your attitude will help you achieve more success. There are skeptics out there that say these types of books are a load of crap, but I can say from my personal experience they have helped me a great deal. Having a thought and making it magically come into existence is the biggest misconception of those that have not read either of these books. Basically, you are what you think you are and a negative attitude will attract negative results. That is what these books are trying to teach you.
Lately I have been digging down deep to remember some of the things I learned from my first two reads, so here are some tips and the results of following them:
- Surround yourself with the right people- I have joined two entrepreneurial meet ups in my local area to surround myself with like-minded people. Utilize all of your resources to get to where you want to be. Networking is one of the best resources you can take advantage off. Meetup.com is a cool site to visit if you are looking to meet new people with similar interest.
- Think positive thoughts- I have found by thinking positively it has not only reduced my stress level, but I just feel much happier as a person. Thinking positively results in my household being happier as well. Remember you are only in control of 10% of what happens to you so constantly worry about the 90% that you can’t do anything about will eat you alive. Sometimes you just have to take the lemons that life gives you and make lemonade or lemon cake. Be a problem solver and not a victim of life.
- Help others along the way- I have officially signed up to be a mentor for a teen aging out of the foster care system. I think I may have found my future mentee after attending a match up event. Now I am waiting to hear back from the mentor coordinator. What’s the point in reaching success if you can’t help others get there as well? Be a positive influence to others.
- It’s ok to take risks- After going back and forth on whether or not I should temporarily hold off on paying my federal student loan; I made the decision to go into forbearance for a year. They told me I couldn’t defer my loan because I made too much. That’s in their opinion not mind. Now I’m not sure if it was the best move, but the decision was made so I can put bigger chunks towards the pain in the butt Sallie Mae and build my emergency savings back up. I have already seen a difference in my loan balance which feels like a huge burden has been lifted.
As you can see the decision to just be happier is paying off. I am enjoying life much more which is rubbing off on my son and boyfriend. Remove any negativity from your life and if it’s not something that you can do immediately; start making the transition. You deserve it to yourself and your family. So it doesn’t matter what you are struggling with; just pick up a book or read some articles to motivate yourself.
This is a follow up post to “Are You Making Yourself Unhappy.”